The Complexities of the Dating Game

I feel like I haven't blogged in forever - well I haven't - life has gotten away from me - so many things going on that need a resolution, a mini vacay with my mom which was just what I needed (loving my tan) and then the unthinkable happened - my laptop broke - I just shipped it off yesterday for repair, so I pulled out my old broken one to sit here and blog (yes Jeannette, I have a spare - you didn't want me moving in with you for 10 business days so we could share yours, now did you?! LOL).

Waking up and noticing remnants of last night's lipstick still stained on my lips means I had a great night, huh?! I went to a jazz night in Northern Liberties with Rands - it was great catching up with an old college friend. You know life after she had precious twin baby girls! I cannot believe they are 1 already! Sheesh! Time flies! It was like the good old college days - you know when you are starving after drinking all night and stopping at Wendy's drive thru to grab something (anything) to eat to feed the liquor. Oh the memories!

Anyways, let's rewind and get focused on the point of this blog - MY complexities with dating - which I encountered last night. Before I went out I talked to Jeannette and we realized another issue we have - this whole casual dating thing is just not for us. The truth of the matter is if I am not interested in you then NO I don't want to get to know you - I don't want to go out - I don't want to entertain your company...all for the sake of "having fun" - this type of fun (weeding through the dating pool and ultimately wasting my time) makes me think I would rather enjoy someone poking me in my eye with a sharp pencil point to put me out of my misery. QUICKLY!

Imagine my disdain last night as this guy kept coming back to talk to me all the while having an earring in his lip - I wanted to just rip it out - like WHY did he have that...further more when he asked me where I was from and I reply Mt. Airy and his response was oh, so you live in the row homes...WHATTTTTTT! I guess he would be surprised, huh?! (Let me not forget to mention he was from WEST PHILLY, but to him Mt. Airy equates to row homes?!?!) The things that come out of men's mouths nowadays - and he was kind of shocked I did not want to exchange numbers, yet he still invited me to an event he will dj on Thursday night - excuse me sir, no thank you, but it's time for me to leave and go to my row home so I can go to sleep. You go home to your 3 kids. Have a nice night. 

The truth of the matter is if I want to have fun, I want to genuinely have a good time and enjoy the company I am with. Is that too much to ask for??? And if I casual date and the guy begins to like me and I know I have no interest, then eventually his feelings will be hurt - and that's no fun. I know upon my first interaction with someone if I am attracted to them or if I can conjure up something developing between the two of us - never has my mind been changed or my opinion swayed from my initial reaction to a man - but yet I am told I must continue to "play the game" until I find a partner. *silently screaminggggggggggggg* What's a woman to do?!